Identifying Authoritarians, Fascists and Dominators Including Anti-social Psychopaths: Self Protection In a World of Fraud and Disinformation
NOT just Narcissists
Life is Traumatic—Today Goes Beyond the Pale.
Update: There is a rise now also in the use and practice of psyops which is used in warfare from ancient times. Let’s simply say this fits all below as it is about domination and control out of pure cruelty. Look here for a good long explanation of psyops and expect more. Learn this then go over to the post on healing abuse. Don’t let anyone mess with your mind or body. And if YOU are this perverse you need to be jailed. It is our only answer.
I get asked “why” certain people are so dangerous, greedy, and uncaring. Two reasons are generally offered: genetic proclivity and/or childhood upbringing and model, whether privileged or abused. This is a re-mix of an earlier article: Beginning to Heal Trauma & PTSD: Dealing with Authoritarian Abuse and Life Experiences. A Resource Guide for Self-Care: To Transform the World, Transform Yourself It is much more in-depth on the positive side. The dark side is what I present here.
I have one intention here, to help you identify dangerous people whose level of hate is almost unmeasurable and unbelievable if you are pro-democracy and interested in the greater good.
Everything here is based on the life experience of my mentor, Dr. Les Carter, and my own training in developmental psychology. The people on this spectrum are developmentally stunted, and only THEIR WANTS matter, like a three-year-old, and they can become very skilled in getting what they want. A bit like a crow who is enchanted with a shiny object. Only this crow can literally kill you and/or your sanity.
Although this is based on evidentiary academics, Les Carter’s experience, and mine, there will be no citations.
How to Spot a Narcissist
We are now moving through, and I hope, out of an era of abuse by those in power who dominate, intentionally abuse, destroy and destroy, and vainly and narcissistically believe they know what we, the people need. In other words, they project their wants and needs on you and the world. They are anti-democratic. And as I hear a lot, many feel traumatized and victimized. The victimizer almost always claims to be a victim.
The following Bullet Points are from my mentor, Dr. Les Carter, who has many programs. I belong to Surviving Narcissism, which you can find on YouTube. Dr. C and I have similar training and views, and I understand his points easily, as I hope you will.
Don’t be fooled by pleasant behavior in the good times.
Character is revealed in moments of duress or in conflict.
A narcissist’s beginning point of reference: entitlement
An extra measure of emotional neediness (narcissistic supply)
Inability to trust, which prompts the need to be in control
Narcissists hide insecurity and fears by attempting to be superior.
Self-absorption inhibits, significantly, the ability or willingness to show empathy.
Illogic reigns due to a high need to protect the False Self, accompanied by astonishingly low levels of self-awareness.
Empathy is almost entirely non-existent as self-protection is central.
Judgmental and critical in general, which sets up ongoing agitation.
Assumptions That Narcissists Maintain
Narcissists are notorious for double standards. “It’s reasonable for me to be angry, but your anger is intolerable.”
They genuinely see themselves as the only right person in the room.
Their needs, interpretations, and desires are valid. When you do not concur, it proves that you are a menace.
Your needs, interpretations, and desires are selfish. (projection)
Assumptions That Narcissists Maintain
You must tune into their preferences and prop up the narrative of their unique status.
They are unable to be steady without your compliance. (subconscious)
Your lack of conformity means you have to be taught a lesson.
Even when their anger is clearly inappropriate, it is your fault.
The Many Manifestations of Anger
Loud and abrasive
Rage, shouting, pushy, accusations and blame, coercive communication, harsh insults, becoming physical, blunt and insensitive opinions
Undertow of tension
Easily annoyed, impatience, frequent frustration, naturally critical, contrarian in conversations, lots of telling, unsolicited advice.
Passive aggressive
Proactively uncooperative, procrastination, evasiveness, punishing withdrawal, behind-your-back sabotage, saying what is expedient.
Contemptuous
Holding grudges, disdain, rejecting you with little provocation, ridicule, chronic disrespect, resentment
What Is Really at Issue with a Narcissist’s Anger?
The more pervasive the anger, the more profound the narcissist’s lack of trust in oneself. (“This is more than I can manage.”)
They have a lifelong lack of emotional competence. The personal dimension (internal steadiness) was never learned.
Narcissists are pretty codependent and want to draw you into their emotional dysregulation.
Chronic attempts to be superior are in direct proportion to hidden feelings of inferiority.
Shame and judgment have been drilled into the narcissist’s psyche. Putting shame onto you diverts them from facing it within themselves.
They are pervasively dishonest (not just with you, but toward oneself). In their Alternate Reality, if they say something is true, it is. No logic is necessary.
Conclusion
As I said, these are only the characteristics of anyone on the narcissistic spectrum, from the bossy friend to the psychopath. They are pretty predictable once you begin to notice some of these behaviors. If you want to learn to take care of yourself, please read Beginning to Heal Trauma & PTSD: Dealing with Authoritarian Abuse and Life Experiences. A Resource Guide for Self-Care: To Transform the World, Transform Yourself.
Contact: Nancy Peden, D.D. I also offer counseling sessions and am very good with depression and PTSD, and dream manifestation. Text 831-236-6904, and please tell me your interests and the best time to call. I am on Mountain Time.